No,
I didn't actually sleep with that unbelievably hot Russian tennis
player who is also a worldwide sex symbol. But there WAS a girl at my
gym who looked JUST like her -- so much so that we all referred to her
(behind her back) by that nickname.
And
we ALL would have crawled a mile over broken glass to date her! This
girl was BEYOND hot, and she was Russian, too (with a super-sexy
accent). So let me explain how it went down, and give you some tips on
how to approach a woman at the gym.
First, very few guys have any clue about
how to approach a woman at the gym -- and so they don't even try. They
think it would be weird, or awkward, to approach her while she's in
the middle of a workout, or cooling down and getting ready to leave.
They
figure she's in her own "zone," focused on her exercise, and not in
the mood to have some stranger walk up and start talking to her.
The
funny (and ironic) thing is that most of the guys in the gym are there
because they want to make themselves more attractive to women! They're
getting in shape and building up their muscles because they want girls
to notice them.
And yet, when they're actually IN the gym, they think the women there are somehow "off bounds."
(Actually,
nothing could be further from the truth. Hot girls LOVE going to the
gym in their sexy outfits, so that they can get attention from guys and
hopefully meet someone.)
The dudes
who stand there holding barbells, wondering about how to approach women
at the gym, are missing out on GOLDEN opportunities. So if you want to
know how to approach women at the gym, I'll tell you how I was finally
able to score a date with "Anna" and get her back to my place for a
"private lesson."
f there's a girl at your gym that you
want to talk to, wait until she's deep into her workout session. Don't
try to talk to her when she first shows up, or when she gets on the
Stairmaster ten minutes after arriving.
Let
her work up a sweat. This means she's feeling good and her brain is
releasing endorphins (our natural pleasure chemical.) Technically,
she's actually feeling a bit "high" at this stage!
And
if she's been working out hard and could use a break, she'll welcome
the chance to chill out for a minute and talk to you. (IF you approach
the right way, of course.)
So here's
the gym approach that I used with Anna (as she was doing her stretches
after a hard workout, causing every guy in the gym to stop and stare):
"Hey,
let me ask you something real quick. You look like you keep in good
shape, and my friend Jennifer just had a baby -- I'm the baby's
godfather, and he is soooo adorable -- and anyway, Jennifer really
wants to get back in shape and lose the weight she gained from her
pregnancy. Do you know any trainers you can recommend? Or maybe some
exercise classes?"
This approach
worked on several levels. First, I did not ask permission. I didn't
say, "Excuse me, do you mind if I ask you something?" Screw that. Never
give a girl a chance to say no to you. Jump right into it.
Second,
I mentioned how I am the godfather to my friend Jennifer's adorable
baby. As a woman, I'm pushing some of her emotional buttons. If I'm a
"godfather" to an infant, then I must be a sensitive, loving, protective
guy.
Third, I threw out a specific
QUESTION that is easy for her to answer. She's a hot chick who works
out a lot. Naturally, she wants to share her knowledge on this. So she
starts talking about the best way to get my friend Jennifer back in the
gym...
And from there, now that I'm
"in the door," I simply need to use the right conversation tactics to
BRIDGE to other topics and build a connection with her.
We
spent the next 15 minutes chatting and laughing, then I used a
"stealth" move to get her number and suggest a place for us to meet on
Friday night, and the rest is history. Knowing how to approach a woman
at the gym is actually quite simple, when you use the right tactics.
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